Commitment charter

PRIVACY

I understand that everything said or done during the events is confidential. I can share my own experiences, but I will not talk about what someone else has done or said. 

I will not reveal real names, nicknames or explicit details about anyone present at the Kinky Saloon to anyone outside. 

I understand that I can't photograph or film at events. The Kinky Saloon has one or two photographers on site. You will not be photographed without your consent; instead, you must approach them and ask to be photographed. They'll make sure that only you appear in your photos. The photos will then be sent to you, and it's up to you whether or not to post them.

CONSENT

I will respect everyone's boundaries and ensure that all my activities and interactions are respectful and only involve people who have given their consent to the interaction. 

If I'm not sure about someone's limits, or if I'm not sure that someone has understood my limits, or if it's not clear what we've agreed to, I'll take responsibility for taking the time to clarify the situation before continuing.

INCLUSION

I understand that it is forbidden to engage in hateful, harmful, threatening or intimidating behavior, or to discriminate against or harass anyone on the basis of, for example, gender identity (identifying as male, female, a mixture of the two, neither or something else), sexual orientation and preferences, physical appearance, ethnicity, age...

RESPONSIBILITY

I understand that BDSM is potentially dangerous. I am responsible for my own choices and the possible consequences, both physical and mental. 

I am solely responsible for my personal liability insurance. I cannot claim compensation for anything I have done or exposed myself to. The association, team members and other members are in no way responsible for any accidents that may occur during a party. 

I understand that everything that happens at events must be voluntary and that I must not be forced to do anything that makes me uncomfortable (including workshop exercises). I take full responsibility for my limits, for what I don't want to receive and what I don't want to give. 

I understand that I can change my mind at any time, say no, stop what I'm doing or leave. I can always adapt an interaction to my needs, to what I really want to give or be ready to receive.

I understand what "safer sex" is. You can find out more about safer sex in "our rules and recommendations".

The organization declines all responsibility in the event of theft, loss or damage to your personal belongings.

POWER BIAS

To avoid power bias, KSF team members will never suggest that you play together at an event. On the other hand, they are open to your suggestions for games. Of course, they can say "no" without justification.
We have the right to come to you for a chat, but it's up to you to ask us if we'd like to play. We think this helps reduce the power bias of the organizers and other team members.

Our rules and recommendations

To attend a Kinky Saloon, you need to bring a partner.

Some of our "apéro-ateliers" are open to single people.
Single people are welcome at our "Members Only" munch to chat with other members of our association. 

Personal liability

  • Respect other people's limits to the extent that they are communicated to you.
  • Everyone (whether bottom, top or spectator) is responsible for themselves. Respect your own limits.

Respect and discretion

  • Blood play, scato and Roman showers (vomiting) are not permitted for reasons of hygiene.
  • It is forbidden to photograph, film or record. This also applies to cell phones and similar devices. 
  • The Kinky Saloon has one or two photographers on the premises. You won't be photographed without your consent; instead, you'll have to go up to them and ask to be photographed. They'll make sure that only you appear in your photos. The photos will then be sent to you, and it's up to you whether or not to post them. 
    Every time you attend a Kinky Saloon, you'll have to repeat the process with the photographers.
  • Do not touch participants or their belongings without their permission.
  • It is forbidden to cut a scene in progress (unless there is a danger to the players) or to take part in a scene without having been explicitly invited to do so.
  • After the party: keep quiet about scenes you didn't take part in. Don't mention names without the players' consent!
  • Make sure that noisy negotiations, discussions and greetings don't interrupt scenes in progress. If you're playing a noisy or hectic scene, make sure it doesn't interfere with scenes taking place nearby.
  • Arguments must take place outside the playing area.
  • If you want to try out a new practice in which you have no experience, look for someone who isn't playing at the time and who knows the ropes. Most of us will be happy to help.
  • Only join a scene in progress with the players' permission.
  • The participation of spectators or other players is only possible with prior agreement.
  • For many of us, voyeurism and exhibitionism are reasons to participate in a BDSM or sexpo evening, but please exercise them with caution and pay attention to the comfort of those involved. Don't be pushy; we want everyone to be able to enjoy themselves!

Premises

  • Please find out what spaces are available for play, what is allowed and where.
  • When playing near the bar, please respect those who are not playing.
  • Play areas are intended for play; if players need the space to play, they come first. It is not advisable to reserve equipment by placing personal items in it.
  • Please eat and drink outside play areas.
  • Toilet use is limited to its original purpose.
  • Protect the play area with a plastic sheet, towel or other suitable cover.
  • When you have finished playing, please clean (and if necessary disinfect) the area yourself.

Safewords and game stoppage

  • The safety words for the evening are "ORANGE" (something is wrong, pause to check and discuss) and "ROUGE" (stop the scene). They must be used by everyone, unless, of course, you have your own safety words. 
  • If a player uses the "red" password and the scene doesn't stop, everyone is responsible for intervening themselves and, if necessary, involving others around them.
  • However, if a scene simply isn't to your taste, you can look elsewhere.

Our recommendations for risk reduction (safer sex)

  • Genitals should only be touched with gloved hands. Fingers and fists should always be protected with latex or vinyl. In public places, this is recommended for reasons of hygiene.
  • Cover dildos, vibrators and other penetrating objects or organs with condoms; disinfect toys after use if necessary. If you want to go from the anus to the genitals, clean the corresponding toy and put on a new condom or gloves first. (Contact in the other direction with the same person is acceptable).
  • If you use a disinfectant, follow the instructions for use, especially the contact time.
  • Limit bodily fluids to your play area. Be aware that some of us squirt profusely when we're very happy.
  • Please bring towels or plastic sheeting to cover areas that others may use later.
  • Be sure to bring lubricant (adapted to your preferences and any sensitivities you may have) and, as a precaution, safer sex equipment.
  • If you use toys provided by the Kinky Saloon team, please clean them up and return them after use.